Comment/reply posted to Rayah's blog, 7/7/2005 at 1:28 PM, in case she deletes posts.

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"Have you ever been in a situation where..." i think i have, but that depends on your definition of "move on."

What really kills it is that "the person who unravelled you" does nothing but "shows up." A few words, a smile, a laugh. And you wonder what the intentions are: do they mean to hurt you the way they did before? did they even know (or accept!) that they did, regardless of their /intent?

...or do they know the hurt they've caused, and mean to make things "right" again (whatever "right" is), when you already know that things will be unpredictable and without a sense of complete security... how you will never know if things will be better or worse, because -- first and foremost -- things are different, and can never be the same again, regardless of the initial outcome of their "showing up..."

and no matter what the reason is, their actions -- no matter how small or how few -- show that they've moved on: forgiven (themselves, or forgiven you) and forgotten the one moment, that one action, that one conversation that unravelled you to begin with... they show they've moved on, even though you feel that you haven't moved at all -- like a stopped watch, marking the exact moment when it's battery had died.

...but since i don't know what you're talking about, umm...
i'll see you on the bus ride to conference? =p yay conference!

Posted 7/7/2005 at 1:28 PM by bobo929