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what are you talking about?
(Anonymous)
2006-01-15 05:18 am UTC (link)
The way I heard it HE never made a move for you, more like you made a move for him. I think next time you venture into a relationship you should consider a few things:
1) Pray that your ready for a relationship.
2) Guys are suppost to make their intention known, that they wanna pursue a relationship (to make the first move). I thinks this is best so girls aren't giving away there hearts to every Joe shmo, with the big possiblity of ended up crushed and broken hearted in the end.
3) If the couple never has the "are you my girlfriend talk?" initiatied by the guy, then guess what... there is no relationship there, only a good friendship.
4) If people assume a couple is going out, then just remember its just a assumption... something unconfirmed. Its only truth when it comes from the source. Besides people are always gonna assume things ... the trick is not to believe it and not to feed it.
5) Lastly communication is key to avoid misconceptions of "real as reality television...which is, like, fake.
6) Talking to friends who are in a relationship are always good source of guidence.
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Re: what are you talking about?
bobo929
2006-01-16 03:52 pm UTC (link)
oh, you've got to be kidding. (i KNOW this will come back to me.) HOW the heck do 'anonymous' people go off spouting advice to people...
...no matter "good" or "right" the advice is -- on ANY subject -- it seems that you haven't heard the expression that "nobody cares what you know... if they already know that you don't care." it's not a simple "something-breaks; let's-give-the-quick-fix" : these are emotions we're talking about here! it's NEVER as simple as "if-then" (because people make it that way (uneccessarily)).
i read this comment and thought, "...this person truly believes the whole thing is ********'s fault?" it has nothing to do with placing blame, because "the way I heard it" ... more like "the way I understood it" is that -- if blame MUST be placed... it rests squarely on TWO people who misunderstood eachother. On TWO people who didn't make their intentions known. On TWO people who you didn't set clear boundaries for eachother.
You get up and move on -- but not BEFORE the (unnecessarily long, pointless and illogical!) process of sorting through one's own emotions. The list DOES provide some good advice for doing just that, and avoiding situations like this in the future, but people don't care WHAT you know, unless they know that you care.
.........sorry 'bout that. it's just that if you were REALLY ********'s friend ('friend,' implying that you would want her to be happy, and perhaps actually TAKE the advice)... you would at LEAST make it known who YOU were -- BEFORE you make it seem like the WHOLE thing is her fault. No, I haven't heard both sides of the story, but i've heard enough to know that both sides are to blame. It's never a one-sided thing.
But i've also heard enough to know that it's NOT beyond fixing... someday. God always has reasons for these things. Both sides have learned quite a bit about themselves and life in general, so it ain't so bad.
and go ahead and say that you didn't want the hassle of a livejournal account, because you STILL had time to think through this list, no?
[ugh. ********, just delete my comment.]
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Re: what are you talking about?
********
2006-01-17 01:53 am UTC (link)
actually brian, i think i'll keep it. thank you.
posted by Brian at 9:09 a.m.
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